NVC was developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg more than 25 years ago and is now taught in over 50 countries. This method of building social intelligence has been used to resolve conflicts in the inner cities of the United States, in Rwanda, Colombia, Israel and Palestine, among other countries. When four schools in Sweden were offered three different models of conflict resolution, all four of them chose Nonviolent Communication.
Through NVC, we come to realize that feelings stem from universal human needs that have either been met or not met. As we learn to identify these needs, we see that they drive our own actions and the actions of others. With this new awareness, it becomes possible to communicate with greater respect and compassion, empathy and honesty.
This is why NVC is often referred to as “compassionate communication.”
Using NVC, we connect with ourselves and with others by following four steps:
- make a clear observation about the situation, excluding all judgments or opinions
- identify the feelings that arise in us in connection with the situation
- identify the needs that were met or unmet
- make a request that will lead to getting those needs met
Our intention in using NVC is to stay connected to our own feelings and needs and to those of the other person. When we are connected at that level, conflicts are much easier to resolve and positive strategies for getting everyone’s needs met emerge naturally.
NVC works even if the persons with whom we are communicating do not know NVC. When one individual in an interaction practices NVC, conflictive situations can often be turned around with ease.
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), founded in 1984, is “a global organization whose vision is a world where all people are getting their needs met and resolving their conflicts peacefully. In this vision, people are using NVC to create and participate in networks of worldwide life-serving systems in economics, education, justice, healthcare, and peace-keeping.” CNVC has supported the Academy for Peace through scholarships for its trainers, a grant, and discounts for materials. Click www.cnvc.org for further information.
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